Treat relationship clutter like mouldy vegetables

If something had gone rotten in your fridge, would you keep it? 

The answer is probably “No”, or at least I hope that’s the case.

If something has gone rotten in your life, do you keep it?

Well funnily enough, it’s a lot harder to get rid of ‘life’ stuff than it is to chuck the squashy cucumber out of the salad drawer.

At the end of a relationship, the rejected partner may believe they have lost everything that mattered. They are in a place of lack, hanging on to furniture, bedding, photos, gifts and paraphernalia which remind them of their ex. 

Consciously or subconsciously they cling to the lost relationship, and the thought of giving up their shared belongings creates a sense of fear and a determination to hold onto it all the tighter.

As you can probably imagine, whilst that’s a great money spinner for your lawyer, it’s not helpful if you want to start something new.

If you can turn the situation to a positive perspective, getting rid of all the stuff which reminds you of an ex is actually creating a space for you to grow and bring new energy into your life. By removing memory triggers, you give your beleaguered brain the space to relax and create different, more positive thoughts.

Look around your home now – give your rooms some interior therapy! What can you see that really doesn’t fit the ‘need, use, love’ criteria? What brings you down? Makes you feel inadequate? Unloved? or just reminds you of something or someone you don’t want to remember?

Take control and deal with it – don’t be like the client who hung on to much of the furniture from his marital home for over four years, including the bed he had shared with his wife and all the bedding! After all, would you want to get frisky with a new love in the sheets they had shared with someone else? Euw!

Understandably this man didn’t move on emotionally and repeated old mistakes and patterns in his subsequent short-lived relationships. When he finally asked me for help and made the decision to break the hold his possessions had over him, he quickly met someone new and they are planning a future together.

You deserve a home which supports and serves you, don’t delay another moment!