As long as you both shall live
I’ve been busy with calls and mini-consultations since my book was launched earlier this week.
As my amazing publishers Panoma Press anticipated, ‘Welcome Home, How Stuff Makes or Breaks your Relationship’ tapped into something which goes beyond the craze for decluttering.
And that’s relevant, because with divorce threats in the UK, USA and beyond are skyrocketing through #Lockdown,
people are starting to understand there’s more to sorting out your life than reorganizing the knicker drawer.
You see, Interiors Therapy isn’t about clutter. Yes, clutter is part of it, but it goes so much deeper than that.
Professional organizers tidy your home.
Feng Shui practitioners tell you how to make your space more auspicious.
Life Coaches support your goals…
but if you’re still surrounded by stuff holding you back at a subconscious and energetic level and the energy is bouncing off the people you love,
regardless of the decluttering, coaching and Feng Shui, you’ll be on a repeat pattern which might stretch back over years and you won’t understand why.
Every caller this week mentioned a relationship situation, but it could just as easily have been patterns in jobs.
Most are painfully single and don’t want to be there. They have experienced similar romantic breakdowns with different partners more than twice.
I’m cannibalizing Oscar Wilde here, but you get the drift…
“To lose one partner may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose more looks like carelessness”
They are replaying their lives every few months or years, almost by habit without realizing their stuff is the key.
One woman said she could even set her watch by the length of a relationship.
Hearing about Welcome Home on the radio gave her the first insight into the power of her possessions, especially the ones no one would ever regard as clutter.
So what are these purveyors of relationship doom?
Well if it was that easy, it wouldn’t be an issue! Like all the best things, it’s individual to you, and it’s only by really getting clarity on the impact of your possessions you can develop the ability to deal with them.
There are some obvious triggers I talk to my clients about, but more often than not, we spot them in plain view on a video-consultation long before the back-story has ever been revealed.
Take the lady whose partner left her devastated and alone after 8 years together. A few minutes digging revealed her wedding ring and photos from her previous marriage. She moved them to each new home, keeping the energy of her ex husband in her life.
No wonder the man she loved couldn’t commit – there was no room for him to do so when energetically and sybolically she was married to someone else – and in any case, why would you invest your emotions in someone who cares enough about the ex to keep the ring?
Interiors Therapy can be painful, but like ripping a tattered band-aid off a wound, once you let the air get to it, the healing can begin.
What scars are you hiding behind?
As a senior executive said after a recent three hour session “I feel happier and lighter and more in control of my life. I am ready to set goals and pursue them knowing my home supports rather than drains me. A far cry from the exhausted, paralysed person I was a few weeks ago.”
There’s so much more about gaining clarity about the energy of your possessions in ‘Welcome Home’ and of course it’s even quicker to identify and deal with them when you have an expert on your side.
Suzanne Roynon is an expert Interiors Therapist based in the UK, working online and in person with clients across the UK, Europe, USA and Australasia.
